Less And More – Less Silence, More Real Talk

Welcome to what I hope is the first of many posts in my “Less&More” post series. Just to freshen up the memory of where this came from, I wrote a post the other week that basically said eff resolutions. My goal is to share my thoughts on what I want to do less of and more of, in hopes that maybe it’ll inspire you to pull some new approaches into your daily routine. This will include fitness, business, marketing, relationships, and whatever else may be an area of improvement for me.

My other goal is to keep these as short and sweet as possible without rethinking/editing everything in here a million times because I loooove to ramble.

Less Silence 

Speaking up, in general, can be difficult sometimes. It can be a fear of speaking out about something you think is funny in fear of offending someone or completely bombing the joke. It can be the fear of speaking out in a meeting because everyone may know each other better than you do, and you aren’t sure if your contribution can help. It can be fear of speaking up in defense of yourself because you aren’t completely sure whether you deserve to be defended. Hell, it might be speaking up because dinner tastes absolutely terrible and you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. For me, sometimes I’m afraid to speak up. I wasn’t in the past, but my big mouth has gotten me in trouble more times than I can count, so for a period of time, I shrunk back into myself.

More Real Talk

Censorship and silence does nothing for us, or our relationships. While I’m not suggesting we should go batshit crazy and fly off the handle with no regard for other people’s feelings, there’s no harm in speaking up confidently.

Someone may not find my joke funny. That’s ok.

Someone may think that I’m negotiating where I shouldn’t be. That’s OK too. I can’t learn my boundaries if I can’t test them.

Someone may not agree with my point. Oh well. Wouldn’t the world be boring if we all agreed with each other?

But on the flip side someone may find my jokes absoultely charming and snort laugh their way into my heart. Someone could respect my negotiation skills and it could strengthen our relationship. Someone could agree with my point and we find we have more in common than we thought.

So in 2015, I’m going to spend less time being silent, and more time contributing real talk [tactfully]. So I guess that rules out telling someone I think their UGGs are ugly?

What are you hoping to do less and more of this year?!

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